Love's-responsibility

摘要:LovemeanshavingaresponsibilitytowardthepersonIlove.Thisresponsibilitydoesnotinvolvemydoingforyouwhatyouarecapableofdoingforyourself;nordoesitmeanthatIrunyourlifeforyou.ItdoesimplyacknowledgingthatwhatIamandwhatIdoaffectsyou,sothatIamdirectlyinvolvedinyourhappinessandyourmisery.Aloverdoeshavethecapacitytohurtorneglectthelovedone,andinthissenseIseethatloveinvolvesanacceptanceofsomeresponsibilityfortheimpactmywayofbeinghasonyou.LovemeansmakingacommitmenttothepersonIlove.Thiscommitmentdoesnotinvolvegivingupourtotalselvestoeachother;nordoesitimplythatourrelationshipisnecessarilypermanent.Itdoesinvolveawillingnesstostaywitheachotherintimesofpain,uncertainty,struggle,anddespair,aswellas